true love and marriage
i went to watch "wedding crashers" this weekend - and they had a great quote about true love.
"true love is one soul's recognition of their counterpoint in another"
it really made me think about how much of "true love" is really a choice. seriously, how many times have you gotten to be close friends with someone of the opposite sex and said "damn, if only i could fall IN LOVE with this person." or better yet, when you think you have feelings for someone that you suspect would be a disastrous relationship. yet, you just can't quite shake the chemistry, the curiosity, or the magnet that keeps you stuck?
so what is it? i just can't believe in the hype of love at first sight. i can be a hopeless romantic just as much as the next sappy chick. but i just think that a really strong connection with someone has to involve certain commonalities and an unspoken understanding of the other person. it's got to be more than the physical.
so do we really have a choice in who we fall in love with? or are we just all aimlessly wandering this earth, hoping to fall into the manhole of love when it's time? why are there so many more cases of people falling in love with the "wrong" person, but not being able to fall in love with the "right" people? and if true love is really out of our hands, then how much do we really need to know about someone to fall in love?
also, love is about so much more than just the initial hook. you have to develop a shared vision of where you want to walk together. you have to be able to have faith that you will make the same choices when faced with the "road less traveled." i think that's where marriage comes in, and complicates things. there are plenty of people that we could love or want. but at the end of the day, are they going to be able to grow old with you? can they be your "us against the world" partner? do you have enough of a common ground to be able to make decisions together? if not - how can you possibly have the expectation of "happily ever after?"
everyone wants to fall in love, right? but the bottom line is. . . is true love a required ingredient for a successful marriage, or just a lucky coincidence?
it would be impossible to "love" anyone or anything one knew completely. love is directed towards what lies hidden in its object. ~Paul Valéry, Tel quel, 1943
the ultimate test of a relationship is to disagree but to hold hands. ~ Quoted By Alexandra Penney
love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind, and therefore is winged cupid painted blind.
~William Shakespeare, Mid-Summer Night's Dream, 1595
"true love is one soul's recognition of their counterpoint in another"
it really made me think about how much of "true love" is really a choice. seriously, how many times have you gotten to be close friends with someone of the opposite sex and said "damn, if only i could fall IN LOVE with this person." or better yet, when you think you have feelings for someone that you suspect would be a disastrous relationship. yet, you just can't quite shake the chemistry, the curiosity, or the magnet that keeps you stuck?
so what is it? i just can't believe in the hype of love at first sight. i can be a hopeless romantic just as much as the next sappy chick. but i just think that a really strong connection with someone has to involve certain commonalities and an unspoken understanding of the other person. it's got to be more than the physical.
so do we really have a choice in who we fall in love with? or are we just all aimlessly wandering this earth, hoping to fall into the manhole of love when it's time? why are there so many more cases of people falling in love with the "wrong" person, but not being able to fall in love with the "right" people? and if true love is really out of our hands, then how much do we really need to know about someone to fall in love?
also, love is about so much more than just the initial hook. you have to develop a shared vision of where you want to walk together. you have to be able to have faith that you will make the same choices when faced with the "road less traveled." i think that's where marriage comes in, and complicates things. there are plenty of people that we could love or want. but at the end of the day, are they going to be able to grow old with you? can they be your "us against the world" partner? do you have enough of a common ground to be able to make decisions together? if not - how can you possibly have the expectation of "happily ever after?"
everyone wants to fall in love, right? but the bottom line is. . . is true love a required ingredient for a successful marriage, or just a lucky coincidence?
it would be impossible to "love" anyone or anything one knew completely. love is directed towards what lies hidden in its object. ~Paul Valéry, Tel quel, 1943
the ultimate test of a relationship is to disagree but to hold hands. ~ Quoted By Alexandra Penney
love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind, and therefore is winged cupid painted blind.
~William Shakespeare, Mid-Summer Night's Dream, 1595
posted by serena @ 11:06 AM
2 Comments:
At 12:15 PM,
LT Goto said…
i read a recent vanity fair interview with elle macpherson on her latest relationship. she said she doesn't want to marry because it just sounds sexier to call her partner her "boyfriend."
that does it. i'm skipping the wife and going straight for the mistress.
At 1:30 PM,
serena said…
hmmm. that's a thought. the only thing that could be an issue is kids, right?
but hey - to each his own.
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